Teaching Little Girls Etiquette

By Wannikki Taylor
Pretend play can be used as a learning tool to teach etiquette.
Pretend play can be used as a learning tool to teach etiquette.

Teaching proper etiquette will show little girls how to be polite and show courtesy to others. Instill the right etiquette skills in your daughter and she will know what is right and wrong to do in several situations. Engage her in fun activities as a creative way to teach proper etiquette.

Self Introductions

Little girls will often be in social settings where they are among other children and adults. A young girl will need to know how to properly introduce herself as the first step to making new friends. Teach her how to introduce herself using a few toys. Set up a row of her dolls on the floor. Have her say, "Hello. My name is [child's name]," while shaking the hand of each doll. Inform her to make eye contact and smile while introducing herself to the dolls. Tell her that an actual person will reply with his name. She can then say, "Nice to meet you, [person's name]."

Gift Gratitude

Little girls receive gifts from relatives near and far on holidays and birthdays. Regardless of whether or not the girl likes a gift, inform her that she must still show gratitude to the person who gave the gift. Have her make a list of all the people who gave her a gift and write thank-you notes to mail. She can write, "Dear [person's name]," on the inside of a card. A personalized message such as, "I really appreciate the blue sweater," would be fitting. Have her sign the card, "Thank you, [her name]."

Table Manners

The right table manners will prepare little girls for eating a meal at a fancy restaurant. Plan a pretend tea or dinner party as a fun learning tool. Set toy place settings, with a basket of rolls, on a table. Label the utensils to teach her what each one is used for and let her practice using them. Model different table manners, such as placing a napkin over your lap before eating or eating soup with the spoon outward, and let her mimic them. Have her practice asking for food that is not in her reach by saying, "Will you please pass the rolls?"

Answering Phones

Family members and friends will often call households and little girls may pick up the phone. According to BabyCenter.com, by age 4, children are old enough to have short conversations on the phone. Explain to her what you would like her to say when answering, such as "[last name] Residence" or, simply, "Hello." Inform her that if someone asks for you, she can say, "Hold on, please, I'll go get my mom." Warn her to never tell the person on the other line that you are not home. Instead she can say, "She can't come to the phone at the moment. Please call back later." Call her on a cell phone while she answers the home phone to allow her to practice her phone manners.

About the Author

Wannikki Taylor is a professional writer with a Bachelors of Arts in journalism from Temple University. She serves as a children's columnist and covers family entertainment for several print and online publications. She specializes in games, crafts and party planning ideas for kids and their families.