Provide a night light at night. If the child is in complete darkness, her imagination can run wild. A night light allows her to see what is really in her room.
Give your child a stuffed toy to take to bed with her. A teddy bear is a common toy kids take to bed. He can snuggle with the teddy bear to feel better.
Allow the family cat or dog to sleep with your child. The family pet is a friend to your child. Your child will feel better knowing she is not alone at night.
Check underneath the bed and inside the closets for monsters, before bedtime. This way you have already checked for monsters, and you can tell her you are certain there are no monsters anywhere.
Decorate the room to create a calming atmosphere. Soft colors, like pastels, are good color choices for a bedroom. Put away toys before bedtime as well. A clutter-free room gives the child a sense of order, which may calm anxiety.
Let your child know exactly where you are at, in case he gets scared. If it gets too bad, let him know he can come get you. This will make him aware that you are there to protect him.
Things You Will Need
- Night light
- Stuffed toy
- Soothing room decor
Never scold your child for being scared.
Discuss the issues with your teenager to communicate your concerns. Stay calm and talk respectfully as you discuss the bedroom cleanliness. By speaking openly and honestly about the situation and striving to resolve it, you help create an environment of communication and trust in your family, states extension specialist Shannon L. Sachs, with the Ohio State University. Your teen is more likely to listen to your concerns and respond positively when you treat her with respect.
Describe how you would like you teen to maintain her room. Keep your expectations realistic, however. If you are a neatnik and your youngster hasn’t worn matching socks for years, it may be best to meet somewhere in the middle to help everyone feel happier. You might say, “I would really like all dirty dishes returned to the kitchen every evening and dirty clothes placed in the hamper at the very least. If you do more than this, great.”
Ask your teen if she needs help organizing clutter. Perhaps she’s having storage issues and needs some shelves or bins. You might be able to provide suggestions and guidance for maintaining her room and organizing her items. Maybe she needs help sorting items and getting rid of some things, too. If your teen’s room has become exceedingly messy, she may not know how to restore order. It might help if you work with her initially to work through the worst of the mess.
Set an example of neatness and organization for your teen to see. Keep your home and your bedroom tidy and clean, and it’s likely that your adolescent will learn from your positive example, states educator Marie Hartwell-Walker, writing for PsychCentral.
Add room maintenance to your teenager’s household responsibilities. Whatever standards and expectations you described to your teen should become part of her chores. Household chores are often beneficial for teenagers because they help teach life skills and responsibility, states psychologist Fred Provenzano, writing for the National Mental Health and Education Center.
Connect a consequence for household chores not completed. By instituting consequences, you teach responsibility and you teach your child that you will hold her accountable to perform her duties, recommends educator Sara Bean, writing for the Empowering Parents website. Perhaps your teen won’t be able to use her cellphone until she completes her bedroom chores, or maybe she cannot use the family computer until after she finishes her work.
Give the three children the largest bedroom in the house. While most parents enjoy the luxury of the largest bedroom, three people deserve more space than two, regardless of size and age. While adults spend little time in the bedroom, children might spend most of the day in the room, playing, reading, dressing and sleeping.
Use bunk beds to provide sleeping space for all three children. Bunk beds are available with double-stacked beds as well as an additional bed that pulls out or protrudes from the bottom of the bunk bed. Placing bunk beds allows you to stack the beds and provide more floor space for activities and storage.
Give each child their own personal space inside the bedroom, per recommendations from TwinsHelpStore.com. For bedrooms large enough, you might hang curtains or build wall partitions to provide each child with a private place to change clothes, get ready for school or bed and store their personal items.
Allow each child to decorate his or her section of the bedroom to prevent the children from feeling constricted to a single decorating style that fits with their roommates. TwinsHelpStore.com suggests that this, as well as adding personalized items to the room, allows children sharing a room to gain a sense of individuality instead of trying to fit into a mold.
Divide closet space to allow all three children an individual area to store clothing and other accessories. This helps to prevent fights and allows the children to keep their personal items organized and separate from their siblings.
Create additional storage in the room to provide more open floor and bed space. As items in the bedroom accumulate, you need to add more storage to keep the room from feeling cluttered. Add storage bins under beds and hang storage shelves and cabinets around the room to provide each child with extra space to store items of all sizes.
Allow personal space when placing children of different genders in one bedroom. Avoid cramping children into one bedroom for extended periods if the living situation proves detrimental to any of the three children.
Corner Headboard Beds
Have a custom-made corner headboard for two single beds for your twins. This makes use of empty corner space to conveniently fit both beds into one room. Have a carpenter design a custom piece that is a square-shaped night-table and storage area and also serves as a headboard for both beds. Place it in a corner with two single beds that are set against the walls, at a 90 degree angle to each other. Place guard-rails on each bed for safety; these can be removed as your twins grow into the beds.
Upholstered Platform Beds
Recycle your twins' crib mattresses by using them on two platform beds. Place the mattresses on upholstered bases made from plywood boards. These toddler-size single beds can be made out of low boxes that are upholstered with soft cotton batting and covered with fabric. The low height makes it easy for your toddler twins to climb into bed on their own and provides safety if a child rolls out of bed by accident.
Crib Loft Beds
Many cribs can be transformed into toddler beds. If your twins' cribs are not adjustable you can still transform them into toddler loft beds. These beds can be made by raising the bed of the cribs, removing part of the railing on one side and attaching a low three-step ladder. Both beds provide storage space beneath for your toddlers' toys and other items.
To prevent toddler tumbles, ensure that guard-rails are securely fastened to the open side of your children's beds. If beds are placed in the center of the room, they will need safety rails on both sides. Use fabric that is easy to wipe clean for upholstering the bed bases and headboards. It is normal for toddlers to occasionally wet the bed. Cover your twins' mattresses in thick absorbent fleece that can be easily removed and thrown into the wash. Avoid using plastic covers that can come loose from the mattresses and are a suffocation hazard.
Many bunk bed-related injuries happen when a child falls from the top bunk. Rolling off the bed while asleep is one possible cause of an accident. Other kids fall from the top bed while playing. Depending on the way a child lands, he might injure his head or neck. The risks also include minor injuries, such as bruises, and more serious injuries, such as broken bones. Strangulation can occur if a child gets caught on a corner on the top bunk. Entrapment can also occur if a child becomes wedged between the bunk bed and wall. Another potential danger is collapse of the bunk beds, particularly with metal frames that have been poorly welded.
Who Should Sleep In Bunk Beds?
Children younger than age 6 represent the largest number of injuries on bunk beds, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. Children in this age range should never play or sleep on a top bunk bed. An older child can usually sleep on either the top or bottom bed as long as he is mature enough to follow safety rules. A child who rolls around excessively or sleep walks will be safer on the lower bed.
A safe location is the first step in allowing your child to use a bunk bed without injury. Choose a spot away from ceiling fans so your child doesn't get hit by the blades while on the top bunk. A corner location gives your child two walls to prevent falling out of bed. Scoot the bed close to the walls so there isn't a gap large enough for your child to become trapped. Guard rails on the sides of the upper bed may prevent him from rolling out of bed while sleeping. Securing the ladder also helps prevent a fall. Regular inspection of the frame, screws and slats will allow you to identify a problem before a bed collapses.
Rules for Use
Even with safety precautions in place, your child still has a risk of injury if he uses bunk beds improperly. Set rules for playing and sleeping in bunk beds. The upper bunk should be reserved for sleeping only, since play can lead to falls. Cords, strings, ropes and similar objects hung from an upper bunk bad increase the risk for strangulation if your child becomes entangled in the item. Climbing into the top bunk only with the ladder and using caution when in the upper bed will help increase safety.
Find a clean, unused pool noodle or the type of foam roller use for exercise. You definitely don't want a used noodle that smells like chlorine or sweat. Here's a tip: Look for noodles on sale at the end of the summer and stock up for pool play and for cheap bed rails.
Assess your child's need for nighttime protection. If she's new to the whole "big-girl bed" thing, you might want to use the whole noodle or roller. If she only needs a little help staying in bed, use a craft knife to slice the noodle in half lengthwise.
Remove your child's bedding and place the whole or half noodle on the outer side of the bed, a few inches from the edge. If your child's bed is open on both sides, grab another and repeat. If you're using a cut noodle, place it flat-side down.
Replace the fitted sheet over the top of the noodle and tuck the sheet in tightly all the way around. Replace the flat sheet and comforter, and don't forget the favorite blanket or stuffed animal!
Sub in a rolled-up beach towel or blanket if you don't have a noodle handy. Just roll the towel tightly, and remember to place it underneath the fitted sheet for the best protection for your high roller.
Things You Will Need
- Pool noodle
- Foam roller
- Craft knife
- Fitted sheet
Ensure that the sheet is tucked in tightly over top of the foam roller or noodle to avoid shifting during the night.