How to Help My Son Through His First Heartbreak

By Tiffany Raiford
Your son's first heartbreak is going to be hard for you both.
Your son's first heartbreak is going to be hard for you both.

If you had things your way, you’d probably forbid your son from dating until he is at least 40; maybe even later. It might seem impossible for you to believe that any girl in the world will ever be good enough for your boy, and when he deals with his first heartbreak, it might become even harder for you to believe that. His first heartbreak isn’t going to be easy on him or you, but as his parent it’s your job to help him deal with the effects of a broken heart in a healthy manner.

Inform your son that you know what he’s going through is difficult and that while it feels like the pain will never end, it will eventually. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), acknowledging your son’s heartbreak will help him see that you understand and respect his emotions while giving him hope that he will, in fact, begin to feel better at some point.

Keep your opinions of the girl who broke his heart to yourself. According to the AAP, you should never say anything negative about the heartbreaker because the relationship may be rekindled. Telling your son how much you dislike the girl who broke his heart could make him feel angry and isolated.

Encourage your son to get out and interact with others his own age. Even if he isn’t in the mood to go out and socialize, he will be eventually and when he is, you can help him by encouraging him to join a club or group that interests him. This gives him the opportunity to meet new friends and new girls who share his interests and might help take his mind of off the girl who broke his heart for the very first time.

Watch for signs of depression and extreme sadness, advises the National Mental Health Awareness Campaign. While it is perfectly normal for your son to feel sad and upset over his heartbreak, his sadness might be indicative of something more serious if it doesn’t seem to get any better over time. His sadness could elevate into depression, which could cause him social, emotional and even educational problems. If you suspect your son is suffering from more than the typical sadness over the loss of his first love, talk to his doctor about your concerns.

About the Author

Tiffany Raiford has several years of experience writing freelance. Her writing focuses primarily on articles relating to parenting, pregnancy and travel. Raiford is a graduate of Saint Petersburg College in Florida.