How to Deal With a Bully Whose Parents Don't Punish

By Tiffany Raiford
You cannot punish a bully for his behavior, but you can find laws that will help you, even if his parents won't.
You cannot punish a bully for his behavior, but you can find laws that will help you, even if his parents won't.

Being bullied is a traumatic experience for many children, but dealing with parents who won't punish their bullying kids could become a traumatic experience for you. You have to be careful about how you deal with the bully for fear of causing legal ramifications. There are ways of getting to the root of the problem. Just be patient and learn how you can responsibly -- and legally -- ensure that the bullying stops.

Remove the bully’s incentive, if there is one in your particular case, advises KidsHealth. If a bully is targeting your child because he wants her music player or her lunch money, don’t let her take either to school. Make her leave her music at home and take a lunch, or prepay for her lunch with the school, if that is an option. If the bully’s parents don’t seem to punish their child for bullying your child, sometimes you can deal with the bully by removing the incentive.

Talk to your child’s teachers, coaches and any other adult in your child’s life, according to Help Guide. If you’ve tried to stop the bullying by talking to the bully’s family, and that’s how you’ve realized that the bully’s parents will not punish their son for his behavior, you'll have to take it a step further. If the parents of the bully won't reprimand their child, and the bullying is occurring at school, your child’s school can do something to punish the bully, such as through detention or expulsion in the case of repeated reports.

Look into what your state law is regarding bullying, advises, a federal government website managed by the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services. Using the Stop Bullying website (see Resources), check your state’s law regarding bullies by clicking on the state in which you live. From here, you can learn what actions you can legally take to deal with a bully who isn’t learning to treat others kindly at home because her parents don’t punish her. You will learn what your state allows you to do in the way of handling a bully, who to contact regarding a bully and what will happen to the bully once she is reported. Many of the state bullying laws also cover cyber bullying. Many also feature state model policies you could use to implement anti-bullying policies in your school district.


Never threaten or touch a bully, and never confront one without another adult present.

About the Author

Tiffany Raiford has several years of experience writing freelance. Her writing focuses primarily on articles relating to parenting, pregnancy and travel. Raiford is a graduate of Saint Petersburg College in Florida.