Trust is one of the most essential aspects of the relationship between you and your teen. Without trust, your relationship lacks respect and understanding, which can lead to a less than desirable relationship. According to Planned Parenthood, your teen’s likelihood of taking risks and getting into trouble is smaller if your relationship includes trust and respect. Building a trusting and respectful relationship with your teen starts with you and your dedication to making it happen.
Spend more time with your teen. According to Planned Parenthood, this is one of the most effective ways of creating a trusting relationship with your teen. When she feels like you are there for her and she can trust you, there is less likelihood for distrust and secrets.
Keep the promises you make to your teen. A trusting relationship with him only works if you both trust one another, and breaking your promises to him is not helping the trust aspect of your relationship. If you promise to take him to his favorite team’s football game this weekend, do it no matter what else comes up. You can’t expect a trusting relationship without providing a reason to trust one another.
Give your teen the benefit of the doubt when it comes to trust, according to Marie Lee-Rude, the Regional Extension Educator at the University of Minnesota. When your teen daughter asks you if she can go to the movies with her friends on a Friday night, trust that she is going to do exactly what she says she’s doing. It’s difficult to become more trusting with your teen if you automatically assume she is being dishonest with you about the simplest of activities. Trust what she says unless you have proof she was dishonest about her actions.
Open the lines of communication with your teen. According to Ohio State University Extension Family and Consumer Sciences, your job is to create an atmosphere at home that encourages open and honest communication with your teens. To do this, you need to listen to what she says, validate her feelings and refrain from making light of her feelings. Your teen is perceptive. If she senses that you don’t really care to hear about her teenage drama or that you think her feelings are ridiculous based on your often-said, “You’re still young, you’ll get over it” or “Get used to it, it’s life,” she’s not going to want to communicate with you, which does nothing to help you be more trusting with her.
Be trusting with your teen, but do not continue to be trusting with him if he continuously breaks your trust. At that point, it's time to make him earn your trust.