Reasons Why Teens Break Up
Adolescents often have feelings of what they believe is love when they enter into a romantic relationship, because teenagers haven’t experienced deep emotions in this capacity before, says psychologist Carl Pickhardt, Ph.D. in the article, ''Adolescence and Falling In Love,'' on Psychology Today 24. Breakups mean breaking away from the intense feelings they once had for another person. This breaking away often comes with feelings of hurt, rejection and betrayal, states Pickhardt. When teens experience a breakup, it's important for parents, caretakers, mentors and others in their lives to provide teens with guidance to help them gain a healthy, realistic perspective.
With so many changes taking place during adolescence, it's not uncommon for partners to realize that they are growing apart from one another. One or both partners within a relationship may decide that they no longer share similar interests or aren't as compatible as they once were, according to Teens Health. This happens with many couples, and is not an indication that something is inherently wrong with either partner. As teens experience growth, shifts in romantic interests are likely. One or both partners may decide that they would rather focus on other things in their lives, such as school or extracurricular activities, instead of investing in a romantic relationship.
In an article on Psychology Today, adolescents' brains are in a state of neurological development, according to clinical professor of psychiatry at Georgetown University Robert J. Hedaya, M.D., D.F.A.P.A. This neurological development, which Hedaya calls reconstruction, encourages a flux in cognitive and emotional responses to things in a teen's world -- including romantic relationships. Partners may decide that a romantic relationship won't work, and so they encourage a friendship, instead.
Let's See Other People
Adolescents are beginning to shape their own identities, and to try on different roles in the process, according to the Office of Adolescent Health on the website of the U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services. This stage in adolescence may prompt them to want to see other people. A healthy way in which to achieve this goal is for teens to sit with their partners and communicate this desire openly and honestly. Partners can become angry and resentful when their mates decide they want to see other people without discussing this with their partners, or without ending their current relationship. Teens should be mindful of their partners' feelings if their partners wish to see other people.
According to Teens Health, one in 11 high school students reported being physically hurt by a partner. Verbal or physical abuse are signs that something is terribly wrong within the relationship, and not signs that the abusive partner is very caring and protective of their mate. Teen relationships end -- and rightfully so -- when any form of abuse becomes a concern. Teens Health recommends that teens who are in abusive relationships leave the relationship immediately, get help from a friend or adult confidant and avoid handling this situation alone or in isolation 3.
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