Ten Signs Your Child Is Rude

By Sara Ipatenco
Rude children need lessons that teach manners.
Rude children need lessons that teach manners.

Most moms and dads try to instill manners into their children, but most children still are rude occasionally. Watch for tell-tale signs, however, that your child has a chronic case of rudeness so you can take steps to prevent it from becoming a lifelong habit.

Doesn't Mind His P's and Q's

A child that demands something, such as a glass of water or a second helping at dinner, and then grabs the requested item without acknowledging someone giving it him is a rude child. Saying "please" and "thank you" are simple ways to show appreciation for someone's help and even toddlers are able to say the words.

Doesn't Say Excuse Me

When a child barrels through a crowd or pushes others out of his way, it's a sign that he's rude. It's even more rude if that child also fails to say "excuse me" or "pardon me" when he does push into someone or tries to fight his way through a crowd.

Doesn't Excuse Himself

It's completely natural to burp or pass gas and everyone does it several times a day. It's a sign of rudeness, however, if your child delights in making these bodily functions as loud as possible and then fails to excuse himself.


It's a sign of rudeness if a child ignores that an adult is having a conversation and interrupts that conversation. A rude child cares little that the conversation is occurring and wants to say what he has on his mind without waiting his turn.

Isn't Considerate

Many signs related to basic human consideration signal a rude child. A child who chews with his mouth open or talks with food in his mouth is rude. It's rude when a child knocks something off a desk, table or out of someone's hands and then fails to pick it back up. Grabbing objects from other people and failing to hold the door for others are additional signs of rudeness.

Says Disrespectful Things

When disrespectful words regularly come out of a child's mouth, it's a sign he's rude. While all children occasionally say something rude, a truly rude child does it often. Examples include calling names, making fun of someone's appearance and telling adults "no" when asked to do something.

Doesn't Wait His Turn

Pushing to the front of the line and cutting in line are rude behaviors. Shouting out answers in class rather than raising a hand and taking toys away from other children are additional examples of rude children not waiting their turn.

Breaks Rules

All children break the rules on occasion, but rude children do it on purpose and more regularly. Rude children are likely to break rules such as talking in church, screaming in the library and throwing trash on the ground.

Puts His Hands on Others

A child who puts his hands on other children in a mean way is being rude. Pushing, shoving, hitting, punching and pinching are all signs of rudeness and show that a child isn't thinking about the feelings of others. This extends to other people's property, as well. A rude child is more apt to destroy other kids' artwork, mistreat books and break toys on purpose.

Doesn't Make Eye Contact

When a child looks someone in the eyes, it shows that they are listening and being respectful. Children who refuse to make eye contact, especially with an adult such as a parent or teacher, is being rude.

About the Author

Sara Ipatenco has taught writing, health and nutrition. She started writing in 2007 and has been published in Teaching Tolerance magazine. Ipatenco holds a bachelor's degree and a master's degree in education, both from the University of Denver.