How to Teach a Child Loyalty

Teaching loyalty to children can seem like a difficult task. Of course, it doesn't help that our society tends to shy away from topics such as loyalty. Teaching loyalty to young children does not have to be the daunting task that it may seem to be. With a good plan, a good attitude and strict determination you can successfully teach your child how to be loyal person.

Show loyalty to teach loyalty. This can be done by doing things such as refraining from gossip, coming to the defense of those who are being gossiped about and not speaking unkindly to family members and friends. Simple things like shopping at the same grocery store, supporting a local candidate or helping out at their school can also show your child what loyalty looks like.

Create special family traditions that your child will cherish and look forward to. If your children are older, allow them to express their ideas. Observe these traditions with commitment and enthusiasm.

Place formal and informal pictures of the family around the house. Pictures on the walls, refrigerator, mirror, desktop or any other place will create a sense of community in the family for your children. Once they feel they are part of a community they will develop a natural sense of ownership in and loyalty to that community.

Use conflicts to teach conflict resolution. In order to be loyal, children must learn how to work through conflicts. It is important for children to learn that a dispute does not have to mean that a relationship must end. On the contrary, conflicts can draw people closer together by teaching them things about the other person. Also, practice proper conflict resolution skills when you have disputes and your children will be able to learn from you.

Teach your child family history. Be sure to do this in a way that does not seem boring or preachy. Instead, find casual moments in which you can connect your child's experiences with those of another family member. For example, if your child likes to write, remind him that his grandfather wrote for the local newspaper. Having knowledge of their family will help your children feel connected and loyal to their family.

Do activities together as a family. Take the siblings to each other's games, plays, recitals, spelling bees, etc. Allow them to participate in each others lives by being a part of each other's activities and supporting each other. You can also plan activities for the whole family such as camping, a softball game or shopping.


Teach your children naturally and during casual moments. They will appreciate it and accept your teachings more readily.