Positive Characteristics for Parents

By K. Nola Mokeyane
Showing your kids that you're open to their thoughts and ideas early in life sets a solid foundation for their interactions with others.
Showing your kids that you're open to their thoughts and ideas early in life sets a solid foundation for their interactions with others.

Positive and effective parenting practices are rooted in solid principles that parents would ideally like to see in their children, such as honesty, integrity and responsibility. KidsHealth.org, a trusted online resource for information about children and families, suggests that effective parents model those good behaviors for their little ones. Displaying positive character traits on a consistent basis is the most vital teaching tool that parents have at their disposal.


Child psychologist Kenneth N. Condrell, in the article "How to Be a Trustworthy Parent to Your Toddler" on the Fisher-Price website, writes that children learn to trust their parents during infancy, when babies look to mom and dad to ensure that their basic physical and emotional needs are met. During the toddler stage, children still need their parents to offer praise and recognition for accomplishments, and to validate their emotional needs, no matter how unreasonable a toddler's expectations may seem. Parents teach their children to trust them by being a reliable component in their lives.


Integrity embodies a number of moral ideas, such as honesty and ethics. Parents who model integrity have a greater chance of teaching their children to have integrity in their personal affairs as well. Integrity lays a solid moral foundation for your children to follow, which can keep them out of trouble and inspire them to make responsible decisions.


Parents often complain that their children, especially their teens, lack a sense of responsibility, which is evident in their inability to consistently complete their chores or homework assignments without prompting. In "Modeling Healthy Behavior for Your Children" on PsychCentral.com, marriage and family therapist Danielle Grossman states that emotional responsibility is an equally important characteristic for parents to have and model for their children. Grossman describes emotionally responsible parents as those who seek positive coping strategies for challenging emotions, instead of taking frustrations out on others.


Self-discipline means having the ability to exercise self-control and delay gratification, among other things. When parents are able to control urges to engage in behavior that they may not want their children to model, such as using offensive language or poorly managing anger, they teach their children to make different choices when these impulses arise. Making your child aware of how you use self-discipline in your daily life provides him with effective tools for living.

About the Author

K. Nola Mokeyane has written professionally since 2006, and has contributed to various online publications, including "Global Post" and Modern Mom. Nola enjoys writing about health, wellness and spirituality. She is a member of the Atlanta Writer's Club.