How to Manage Aggressive Male Teen Behavior
Teenage boys are not typically known for their calm, laid-back manner of dealing with anger. With their bodies changing and their hormones raging, they are often more prone to aggression than anything. If you’ve noticed that your teenage son seems more aggressive than usual, it may not be a cause for concern because it’s typical male behavior at this age. However, to prevent his aggression from becoming a real problem, teach him to manage his aggression in a healthy manner.
Understand that aggression comes in many forms and not just physical violence. According to the National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center, your son’s aggression might be verbal, in that he threatens others and calls them names. He may also exhibit a form of indirect aggression, in which he may tell lies about others, spread rumors and talk about people negatively to others. Keep in mind, however, that indirect aggression is a behavior more typical of girls than boys.
Encourage your son to deal with his emotions in a healthy manner, by communicating them to you or someone that he trusts instead of allowing them to build up inside and cause him to behave aggressively. According to Family Education, a website designed to help parents manage their lives and the lives of their children, you should teach your son to verbally express his emotions and frustrations 1. When he has the opportunity to complain about something or discuss something out loud, he’s better able to manage his feelings and control his aggression.
Set a good example for your teenage son, advises the National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center. When you refrain from becoming aggressive, saying nasty things about others and calling people names when you are angry with them, your son will be less likely to do the same. Teenage boys learn from example, and if you behave aggressively, they are more likely to think that aggressive behavior is an acceptable way to deal with their emotions.
Create consequences as a result of aggressive behavior prior to your son engaging in aggressive behavior. According to Family Education, your son will learn to manage his own aggressive behavior if he knows exactly what will happen to him should he choose to behave aggressively 1. If you tell him that calling people names, bullying others or getting into fights at school will result in the loss of his driving privileges for a week, and that he will have to ride the bus -- no catching a ride from friends permitted -- he is more likely to keep his aggression under control for fear of losing out on this privilege. Telling him after the fact will not help him prevent his behavior.
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