How to Get a Man to Approach You
Missing an opportunity to connect with a man can be frustrating — it can also keep you single for longer than you would like. You may have to step outside of your comfort zone to get the attention you’re seeking.
If you're tired of going out on the weekends and totally blowing every opportunity to connect with a potential mate, you may have to step outside of your comfort zone in order to make things happen.
Because not only can missing an opportunity to connect with a someone be frustrating — it can also keep you single for longer than you'd like. The next time you head out on the town, take inventory of the signals you're giving off and compare them to the ones below. Then decide how approachable you really are.
Your Face Says It All
You probably know what RBF is (essentially, you always look pissed off). But the question is, do you have it? Both women and men can squelch any chance of conversation if their face says "go away."
Lighten up and look like you enjoy life. Smile at him and at the others around you. Unemotional facial expressions will keep a man from taking notice of you, so flash a look of happiness at the guy across the room.
Your Eyes Will Draw Him In
You can't talk about a great smile without mentioning the power of your eyes. Eye contact says everything without saying anything at all. Your eyes are your nonverbal way to communicate an invite 3.
That's because men are more likely to make an advance you if you’ve acknowledged them with even a brief glance. Be patient and persistent, though. With some guys, it might take more than a few glances to get him to take the hint. But once you've locked eyes, avoid looking away — even if it feels uncomfortable. If you turn away he's going to think you're not interested.
Your Body Language
When you enter a room, the first thing you're likely to notice about another person is their body language. So, if you're trying to get a guy to notice you, it's a good idea to make sure your body language is spot on.
Body language experts say one of the quickest ways to scare someone off is to cross your arms over your torso. This sends a message of arrogance and anger. Also, keep your shoulders back and your head high. Contrary to what you might think, guys are into women who have confidence.
Your Confidence Is Contagious
If you can get your body language to match how you feel about yourself, men will notice. That's because men think confidence is an attractive quality in a woman. Since this isn't the 1950s, it's more than okay to show a guy how smart, brave and strong you are. Any man that's worth attracting will be totally into your self-confidence.
Your Move Makes It Happen
Newsflash: You don't have to wait for him to approach you. There's no rule that says you can't be the one to make the first move. So start by being approachable. Engage in casual conversation with those around you. Don’t surround yourself with a posse of your friends.
If you go out with a crowd of your girlfriends, try to spend time away from the group because men find it more difficult to approach you if you’re with a large number of people. Don’t shy away from saying hello to the man you have been watching. He may need the reassurance to start a conversation.
- Psychology Today: How to Deal with Approach Anxiety
- What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People; Joe Navarro.
- Adam Blatner, M.D.: About Nonverbal Communications
- The Happiness Project: Friendship: Seven Tips for Making New Friends.
- Avoiding Mr. Wrong; Stephen Arterburn and Meg J. Rinck.