If your teen isn't entirely satisfied with how she looks, how she behaves or her plans for the future, you, as a parent, have an incredible amount of influence on the person she turns out to be. However, parents can't shape their teen on their own, and that's where books can be useful. Provide your teen with several books that focus on self-development, and she'll probably find tips and suggestions that help her become the person she wants to be.
"It's My Life! A Power Journal for Teens: A Workout for Your Mind," by Tian Dayton is an interactive book that encourages teens to analyze themselves and what they want to change. The first section encourages teens to take pride in who they really are on the inside, as well as become satisfied with how they look on the outside. It also helps teens focus on what they can do to make changes, as well as empower them to plan for their future. "Chill & Spill: A Place to Put It Down And Work It Out," by Steffanie Lorig and Jeanean Jacobs, takes on a similar format with plenty of space for teens to write about their feelings, hopes and dreams. "Through My Eyes: A Journal for Teens," by Linda Kranz, encourages teens to write about what inspires them and what they hope for their future.
Jack L. Canfield and Kent Healy, authors of "The Success Principles for Teens: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be," present 20 principles for teens to learn and follow. Each of the principles is designed to help teens identify what's holding them back, as well as what they can do to forge ahead and create an attractive future for themselves. The principles cover topics such as setting goals, taking responsibility, facing fears and handling rejection. "What Do You Really Want?: How to Set a Goal and Go for It!: A Guide for Teens," by Beverly K. Bachel, gives teens a step-by-step guide to help them set goals for their lives, as well as achieve them. The author includes inspirational quotes and thought-provoking exercises for teens to complete as they identify their goals.
Looking Toward the Future
"Teen Success!: Ideas to Move Your Mind," by Beatrice J. Elye, encourages teens to look within themselves to identify what they want to do with their lives, who they want to be and what they need to do to reach those goals. The author helps teens learn how to make plans, use their time wisely, organize their lives and seek out mentors, all with the goal of developing into the people they see themselves becoming. The author also offers sound advice for overcoming obstacles, as well as boosting self-esteem and self-confidence. "Getting Real: Helping Teens Find Their Future," by Kenneth Gray, helps teens identify potential careers and gives them tips to reach that goal, including how to choose a college. The author provides information that helps teens understand the pros and cons of student loans and what else they can do to make college a reality instead of just a dream.
Teens looking for ways to forge their way in life as they get older and approach adulthood might be interested in "Teen Survival Guide: 3 Keys to Winning in Today's Society," by John Tate. The first section teaches teens how respect themselves, as well as their family members, friends and society in general. The subsequent sections educate teens about responsibility, as well as resolve so they'll have the confidence to develop into the self they envision. Chapter 18 offers a wealth of tips related directly to self-development. Annie Fox and Ruth Kirschner offer teens tips for reducing stress, identifying what causes stress and how to take care of oneself for a happier outlook on life in their book "Too Stressed to Think? A Teen Guide to Staying Sane When Life Makes You Crazy." "Surviving High School: Essential Tools to Prepare You for the Road Ahead," by Rick Bundschuh and Sharon Witt, focuses on surviving high school by offering tips about choosing classes, making solid friendships and dealing with bullies. The authors offer homework tips and organization tips.