One minute your teen is perfectly happy and pleasant, and the next minute, for no reason you can understand, she is yelling, screaming and throwing a temper tantrum. Welcome to the world of raising teens. Between raging hormones, peer pressure and a changing body, no wonder most teens' moods run the gamut from happy to sad to angry to passive -- in a single 24-hour period. Fortunately, parents can turn to books to help find out how to understand their teens’ moods and how to help their teen through this trying time.
"Teen Tips: A Practical Survival Guide For Parents With Kids 11-19," by Tom McMahon, covers several key issues that plague teens and their parents. The first chapter educates parents about the physical, mental and social changes that teens experience. This gives needed insight into why teens can have several mood swings a day. The author shows how parents should listen to their teen, and he offers tips for how parents can connect in a way that encourages their teen to open up and talk about what they are going through. For example, the author suggests you put everything aside and make eye contact when your teen is talking to you. He also recommends that you pay close attention to how your teen behaves so you will notice if something has changed that you need to ask him about. The book also includes chapters on key teen issues, such as driving, sexuality and college, which parents can openly discuss with their teens to help prevent meltdowns and temper tantrums.
Stop Negotiating With Your Teen
If your teen displays mood swings and lashes out in inappropriate ways, Janet Sasson Edgette offers sound advice in her book "Stop Negotiating with Your Teen: Strategies for Parenting your Angry, Manipulative, Moody or Depressed Adolescent." The first section offers an examination of what causes teens to be moody and what parents do, interestingly, to encourage the situation. The author also offers parents tips to change how they deal with their teen's mood swings.so they are not negotiating. According to the book, parents should not give in if they tire of their teens' behavior or indulge their teens' mood swings just to keep the peace. Several case studies in the book offer additional tips for parents, based on what has worked for other parents in similar situations. For example, one case study outlines how parents dealt with a secretive teen who doesn't want to reveal anything to parents, and another described how parents dealt with a teen who was constantly irritable.
Help your Child or Teen Get Back On Track
"Help your Child or Teen Get Back On Track: What Parents and Professionals Can Do for Childhood Emotional and Behavioral Problems," by Kenneth Talan, begins with a question and answer session for parents to determine what might be the cause of their teens' problems. Parents ask themselves what emotions they see in their teen, what the possible causes of those moods could be, and how they respond to their teen's mood swings. The author gives parents tips for getting their teens back on track, as well as on how to cope with the challenges of raising a teen through these difficult years. The final part of the book outlines teen mood problems from the perspective of a professional, and supplies a wealth of additional information parents might find useful in helping their teen.
Help! There's A Teenager In My House
Wayne Rice, author of "Help! There's A Teenager In My House: A Troubleshooting Guide For Parents," takes a comprehensive approach to helping parents raise their teens. This book is different from others because it begins by outlining to parents the issues that teens deal with on a regular basis such as curfews, house rules and independence. The author suggests that when parents understand what teens go through, they are better able to deal with their mood swings. The author goes even further to explain what can cause moodiness such as sexuality, self-esteem and appearance and the confusion that teens have about these issues. Throughout the book, Rice gives tips for communicating with your teen. For example, he suggests that parents rein in their temper so their children are not afraid to come to them and to model the type of behavior they expect from their teen.