It might happen gradually, or occur almost overnight, but sooner or later, you're going to realize that your preteen son is no longer the child you thought you knew so well. If you're feeling clueless as to how to communicate with your preteen, rest assured that there are plenty of other parents who have the same questions as you do. That's why there are more than a few books available that offer tips and advice on handling a preteen boy effectively, while still enjoying being his parent.
It's a Boy
"It's a Boy!: Your Son's Development from Birth to Age 18," by Michael Thompson and Teresa Barker takes a comprehensive approach to raising a son that offers information on boys from birth through adulthood. However, it also includes chapters that are valuable and specific to preteen boys. The authors discuss puberty, offering tips on how to help preteen boys understand what their bodies are doing, as well as suggestions for giving them their privacy during this time of immense changes. The book also includes advice on how to instill a sense of independence in preteen boys -- and how to help them grow into responsible and caring teenagers and adults. In addition to the useful tips, the book includes anecdotal stories and a healthy dose of humor.
In "Raising Boys: Why Boys Are Different" by Steve Biddulph, you'll find a detailed explanation about what makes boys different and exactly what they need from parents to grow up happy, healthy and responsible. In fact, the author includes an entire chapter devoted to how the brains of boys are different from the brains of girls, which is powerful information to help parents understand their sons better. Steve Biddulph also discusses how mothers and fathers differ when it comes to parenting -- and what each can do to parent a preteen son more effectively. Further, the book covers puberty, sexuality, competition, independence and school -- and what preteen boys need to achieve success in each of these areas.
Raising a Son
If you're looking for an in-depth approach to understanding and parenting your preteen son, "Raising a Son: Parents and the Making of a Healthy Man," by Don Elium and Jeanne Elium is a book that provides a wealth of useful and applicable information. Although the book covers issues about sons from birth through adulthood, the chapters are packed with useful tips for parents of preteen boys, too. This book is different from others in that it offers information about how to raise a son according to cultural expectations, as well as the outside influences that impact preteen boys. The authors also offer tips about establishing boundaries, while still encouraging independence. It also offers information about issues that are common among boys, such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.
The Hair-Raising Joys of Raising Boys
"The Hair-Raising Joys of Raising Boys," by Dave M. Meurer is perhaps one of the most amusing approaches to raising sons. In addition to catchy titles, each chapter is dedicated to a certain aspect of raising boys from babyhood to adulthood. In terms of preteens specifically, Meurer discusses issues such as bonding with your preteen son, spending quality time with him and helping him through the puberty years. You'll laugh out loud often, but at the same time, you'll be gleaning useful tips that you can incorporate into your own parenting style.