Oh the heavenly stages of fit throwing. The terrible two's, the terrible three's, they can all be terrible when you don't quite know how to handle them. New moms are often left feeling hopeless as to what to do with their angry toddlers, as they go through stages of throwing fits. Luckily, there are some experienced moms out there with some helpful advice on how to get your toddler to stop throwing fits. Try following these steps and focus on being consistent with each one in order to see results:
First off, as I have said before, consistency is the key to successful parenting. If you aren't consistent, your toddler will be more likely to test their limits with you and test them often. So, it's up to you as a parent or as parents, to train your child to understand the rules and what the consequences are for breaking them. Stay focused and don't give up.
Some parents say things like "Time out doesn't work for my child, he/she won't stay in time out." Well, if your child knows that you aren't going to enforce time out, making them stay in time out, then why should they listen to you and stay in place? It's up to you to make your child sit in time out. Even if this means sitting there with them, or picking them up and putting them back in time out each time the child leaves the area. Whatever it takes! Just keep in mind that once your child learns that he/she will have to do time, in time out and that he/she is not going to get away with leaving time out, eventually your child will cooperate.
When your child begins to throw a fit, do not try to bribe the child to stop throwing a fit. This lets your child know that the control is in their hands. This is a terrible mistake to make and it will lead to many other issues. So, once your child starts to go into a fit, simply be firm and give them one warning. If the warning fails to work, you must lead them to a "time out." Keep in mind there is no reason to yell and there is no reason to let your child see that their behavior is causing you any grief. It's best not to give the fit any kind of attention.
When using "time out" it's best to use the rule; one minute per each year of age. For example: A 3 year old should sit in time out for 3 minutes. However; if your child leaves time out before being excused, the time must start over.
There is no reason to feel as though your toddler has the control, and a child is much happier being raised in a consistent home where the child can grow and develop good habits. So, simply be a consistent parent and stick to the rules, for both happy parents and happy toddlers. Consistency truly does make for happy and healthy families.