What Do You Say to a Teacher When Kids Are Bullying Your Child?

By Kathryn Hatter
You shouldn't hesitate to contact your child's teacher if there's a bullying situation.
You shouldn't hesitate to contact your child's teacher if there's a bullying situation.

When a bullying situation involving your child at school comes to light, you might need to calm your protective parenting instincts before you proceed to resolve the problems. It's important to meet with your child's teacher to discuss the situation. With clear communication, you should succeed in keeping your child safe.

Learn the Facts

Sit with your child in a relaxed and loving setting to discuss the bullying. Ask questions to learn as many details and facts as possible about the bullying problem from your child before you speak with the teacher. Questions to ask include the time period of the bullying, names of people participating and where the bullying happens. Take notes as you talk to your child so you remember all the important details, advises author and talk show host Paul Coughlin in an article on the Christian Broadcast Network website. If any details are unclear, ask questions until you feel confident that you understand the entire situation.

Schedule a Meeting

Once you have the facts call your child's teacher to schedule a conference. Mention the purpose for your request on the telephone, as school policy might dictate an administrator presence at the conference due to the nature of the issue. It might also be of benefit to have a school guidance counselor present at the conference.

Your Approach

You should remain calm when you approach the teacher. High emotions or anger on your part will not solve the bullying problem. Instead, stay focused on resolving the problem. Keep a proactive attitude with a problem-solving demeanor. This approach is more effective for resolving problems -- and the school officials are likely to appreciate your positive attitude.

The Discussion

After outlining the details and facts as explained to your by your child, including the names of students involved and the specific times the bullying occurred, ask the teacher if she has noticed any situations that support your allegations. You should also ask if she's ever noticed your child seeming isolated or at odds with her peers. You should further query the teacher as to whether she suspected a bullying situation in the classroom. Finally, ask her what steps the school will take to put an end to the bullying behavior to help your child feel safe. It's reasonable to expect the school to confront the children involved to remedy the situation.

Following Up

After the initial conference, you will need to have ongoing communication with your child's teacher to ensure that the bullying situation stops. Talk with your child daily to see how things are going. Call or email the teacher if your child communicates problems or issues. Ask the teacher for her perceptions and opinions about how your child is getting along with his peers.

About the Author

Kathryn Hatter is a veteran home-school educator, as well as an accomplished gardener, quilter, crocheter, cook, decorator and digital graphics creator. As a regular contributor to Natural News, many of Hatter's Internet publications focus on natural health and parenting. Hatter has also had publication on home improvement websites such as Redbeacon.