How to Connect With Your Baby While Pregnant

By Jaimie Zinski
Bond with your unborn baby through touch.
Bond with your unborn baby through touch.

The bonding between a mother and baby begins long before birth, according to registered nurse Marilee Hartling, a prenatal program manager at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles. Pediatrician Dr. William Sears also asserts that a mother’s mood and feelings can have a profound effect on an unborn baby. Create a strong connection with your unborn baby by performing a few simple bonding techniques.

Talk and communicate with your baby as much as possible in a calm, clear voice. For example, wake up every morning and greet your baby with a “hello.” Talk to your baby throughout the day and explain what you’re doing, such as standing in line at the grocery store or visiting with his grandmother. Reading to your baby is another option. Choose a favorite book from your childhood or even read a newspaper. Remain relaxed and use soft, gentle tones.

Play music for your baby. According to, babies as young as 28 weeks respond in a variety of ways to music. For example, the baby might become agitated or begin to kick when it hears your favorite rock music. Conversely, a beautiful, gentle lullaby or classical music can have a soothing, relaxing influence.

Touch and rub your belly throughout the day. An amazing connection with your baby can occur by simply rubbing your belly and realizing your growing baby is inside. The combination of talking to your belly while you rub it is an amazing way to begin foraging a bond with your unborn baby.

Play a game with your kicking baby. Once your baby begins to kick, which generally occurs between 16 and 25 weeks, according to WebMD, lie down in a quiet, comfortable place, such as your bed or the living room couch. Wait for your baby to kick, then poke at the spot on your belly afterward. Wait a few moments to see whether your baby responds by kicking again.

Speak to your gynecologist about having an ultrasound. Seeing the baby through an ultrasound can help the experience of having a baby seem more real to the mother, according to Dr. Thomas Ivester, cited in an article at 3-D and 4-D ultrasounds are available, and provide a more distinct image of the baby. Ask the doctor or ultrasound technician for a photograph of the baby to take with you and enjoy each time you want to feel a connection to him.

About the Author

Residing in Chippewa Falls, Wis., Jaimie Zinski has been writing since 2009. Specializing in pop culture, film and television, her work appears on Star Reviews and various other websites. Zinski is pursuing a Bachelor of Arts in history at the University of Wisconsin.