How to Build Self Esteem in Teenagers

By Contributing Writer

The teenage years can be a turbulent time. Teens go through many changes during this time of their life. Factors such as hormones, moods and peer pressure can often influence a teen's decisions. As a result, teens may make bad decisions, resulting in undesirable behavior and constant negativity. Having a strong sense of self-esteem means you have pride in yourself and in what you do. Teens that have self-esteem are filled with confidence and determination can make the the right choices in life and become well-adjusted adults. According to Dr.Joe Rubino, an internationally acclaimed author on self-esteem, having positive self esteem is very important in one's life and can help you achieve great success.

Always be generous with praise. Look for instances when your teen has accomplished a new task, displayed a new talent, acted selflessly, or has demonstrated positive character aspects. Praising a teen for a job well done fosters his independence and encourages him to think positive because he knows he is doing a good job.

Consider positive self statements. Have your teen verbally say good things about himself. Point out your teen's strengths, such as sports that he is good at or subjects he has a strong knowledge of. Reinforce them when he encounters negativity and assist your child in taking pride in his own accomplishments. The ability to identify positive things about himself is an important part of building a healthy self-esteem.

Avoid harsh criticism. A certain level of criticism is okay but don't overdo it to the point where you're putting your teen down as he needs proper guidance. Help your teen learn from his mistakes. Give them constructive criticism when they attempt to resolve the issue because they are taking responsibility and learning from it. When dealing with mistakes, assist your teen in identifying the problem and then brainstorm solutions together. Allowing your teen to brainstorm with you will build his confidence and push him to become more involved in making positive changes in his life.

Allow your teen to make decisions on her own. Praise good decisions but also allow them to take ownership of their own mistakes so they can learn from it. Don't always solve their problems for them, as they will always depend on you when something goes wrong. Try some decision-making skill exercise such as making a list and weighing the consequences of each outcome. Letting your teen make his own choices promotes self esteem because it empowers him and builds up his self confidence.

Show your teen that it is okay to make mistakes and it is sometimes best to laugh at mistakes. At times, it's better to find humor than to focus on the negativity that surrounds a wrongdoing. This will prevent your teen from dwelling on her mistakes and allow her to move forward and achieve success in where she went wrong.

Have your teen set realistic goals, while encouraging her and praising her for achieving these goals. Assist your teen in reaching goals which she can fulfill. Reaching her goals will foster a sense of accomplishment. Your teen also learns that nothing is impossible if she just tries.