How to Help Your 13-Year-Old Handle a Broken Heart

By Debra Pachucki
Give your teen opportunities to be with friends, who can provide support and comfort.
Give your teen opportunities to be with friends, who can provide support and comfort.

Most people go through a breakup at one point or another and the feelings of grief, sadness and anger that accompany them are difficult to bear -- especially for young girls who are just beginning to explore and experience romantic interest. Help your daughter through a broken heart with supportive guidance and encouraging advice.

Encourage your daughter to talk about her feelings. She might not feel up to talking about it at first, or know how or where to begin, but as the KidsHealth website points out, broken-hearted teens who share their feelings with someone they trust usually end up feeling a lot better afterward. Use guided questions to facilitate conversation and help your teen open up -- instead of simply asking her if she wants to talk about it, for example, say something along the lines of, “I’m sorry things didn’t work out between you and Craig. It’s disappointing, isn’t it?” If she isn’t ready to talk, don’t push her. Simply remind her that you’re here when she’s ready. When she does open up, keep the focus on her -- avoid relating her experiences to your own.

Let her know that it’s OK to cry. Releasing those raw emotions can be therapeutic for her, and a good cry can help her to feel relieved or better afterward. Be supportive and ready to lend her your shoulder, give her a hug or hand her a clean tissue. Don’t force it -- if she needs time alone, let her have it. Just check in every once in awhile.

Boost her self-esteem by reminding her about all of her wonderful qualities, traits and talents. Remind her that in time, she will find someone new, and probably, better.

Encourage her to keep busy to help her take her mind off her broken heart. Engage her in activities that she enjoys, recruit her help with shopping or other light errands and encourage her to spend time with friends who can provide additional support. Tackle a hobby, project or new interest together.

About the Author

Debra Pachucki has been writing in the journalistic, scholastic and educational sectors since 2003. Pachucki holds a Bachelor's degree in education and currently teaches in New Jersey. She has worked professionally with children of all ages and is pursuing a second Masters degree in education from Monmouth University.